Recognising and understanding the ‘high-risk times’ that will occur and planning ahead for these is the key to a relatively harmonious family life.

This is not a guarantee that life will run smoothly because you have made a plan, mind you; we are as parents feeling our way most of the time!

Having a routine and some form of structure to your day will give your children a feeling of security, and help you as a parent feel a little more in control. Having a plan that is set in stone is unrealistic, though, and flexibility is key to its success.

Parents of toddlers and indeed teens will recognise that meltdown usually happens when their children are rushed and are required to do something they weren’t expecting! Having a schedule of some sort is key to reducing this explosion of emotion which increases the stress levels.

When setting a routine start with the basics:

- Allow enough time in the morning to get up, wash and dress, have breakfast and leave for school without it being a rush.

- Prepare school uniforms, homework and money needed in advance. Having a rule where bags are by the door the evening before helps reduce stress in the morning.

- Plan evening meals in advance, building in time for clubs or events you and your children have to attend in the evening.

- Finally a good bedtime routine is a time to catch up with your child and give them time to reflect on their day. Ensure your children (and you!) have enough sleep in order to function the next day.

See www.parentandbabycoach.co.uk