I have talked over the last couple of weeks about the immature brain, and the different types of tantrum you may witness from your child.

There are a number of reasons why your child escalates their behaviour. Do be aware of these triggers: intense emotions, tiredness, hunger, parental stress and unmet psychological needs. Parenting style can also be a big influence too.

Time out is usually what I would recommend for a child who is hitting and hurting or damaging things. Time out should be done immediately and calmly - if you are angry your child will only see the anger and will not learn how you expect them to behave.

When your child demonstrates this extreme behaviour tell them what is unacceptable “You have bitten mummy” for instance. “We don’t bite in this family. I want you to sit and think about your behaviour.”

Time out is simply explaining what behaviour you don’t like and withdrawing any interaction with your child, allowing them to reflect on how their behaviour has affected you.

Once your child has been given this chance for reflection move on and do something nice together, giving your child the opportunity to do the right thing. If they say sorry then acknowledge this graciously; don’t be tempted to remind them of their wrong doing at this time. Toddlers don’t have any idea of how long minutes or hours are so make the time out short - one to two minutes.

Time in is taking time to sit with your child and talk through their behaviour. It is an opportunity for you to get an understanding of the extreme emotion they are feeling and what triggers these feelings.

When you talk things through with your child you are not giving the bad behaviour attention, though you are acknowledging your child is having painful feelings, which should help you manage further outbursts.

See www.parentandbabycoach.co.uk